Monday, January 31, 2011

When a man is not into you (This is how he acts)

Ever wonder if a man is into you or not?

I got the answer right here ladies. When a man is into you, he will not criticize you, insult you, be against you, argue with you, or contradict you.In fact, it's the opposite, he will have your back. He will be your biggest fan!

When a man is into you, you can be overweight, have acne on your face , have a bad attitude, and he will still see you as an angel. Ask a man who's in love with a woman to describe her, he will be like, "she's perfect, she's beautiful"". He will describe a woman with horrible character, as a woman with a great personality! Your worst traits to everyone else, are your best traits, in his eyes. He will be in love with parts of you that others can't stand or can't handle. He will see the best in you and bring out the best in you. How many of you saw the Housewives of Atlanta after show, on Bravo last night? Notice how Kim Zoziack's new beau described every one of her worst traits as her best. He claimed, "I know the real her". A man into you will see what others overlook. He will see the real you and love you for it. He won't see you as too hot to handle, because you'll be right up his alley.

When a man is not that into you, he will put you down, criticize you, never try to understand you, fuss at you and he will never have your back. In fact, he won't even be on his best behavior, when he is around you. If you are great and complex, man average men won't make the cut in your life, but that one special guy will have the tools to win you over and he will see you as an addition to his life.

Monday, January 17, 2011

A man cannot change his nature, only his actions

Men cannot change their nature. People cannot change their nature. People can evolve, rebirth and grow, and a person's nature usually remains the same. In fact, spirits don't change. A person's spirit, is usually who they truly are. A man cannot change his nature. He can modify it. He can change his behavior, or actions, but he cannot change his nature. In other words, he can't change his biological make-up. What's his nature? Is he nice? spiritual? thoughtful? honest? goofy? fun? serious? mean spirited? is he a cheater? Is he self centered? Is he a humanitarian? Is he caring? Whatever his nature is, don't expect anything much different from his actions. You're nature influences your actions. If his actions are different from his nature, it will only last for a short while. Why? because when you do what is opposite from what you feel, a psychological tension occurs, which creates an incongruence. People aim to be consistent within their actions.

His spirit is his nature and his nature is who he truly is. You will know a man by his fruit that he bares. Things are so much clearer when you view him as a person, and not as a man.

Men Usually think all women are the same

Do you know that, the average man thinks that all women are the same?


Men swear they know women inside and out. They think all women think the same and behave the same, until they see otherwise. In fact, they say things like "women and their emotions", "it's a woman thing", "she's a typical woman", etc. They believe that all women are the same. Due to this, men have a tendency to suggest that you act like the next woman, who appeals to his senses. They will suggest that you wear certain clothing items, wear your hair certain ways, act a certain way and etc. So then why don't they just go and get that type of woman, then? If men embraced what is unique in a woman more, there would be less comparing. Men can even make you feel insecure when they compare you to something they like in another woman. Do not change anything about your self, for his sake. Make him embrace your uniqueness.

Men Never Change their Rhythm

A man will never change his rhythm when he meets a woman, he just adds you to his routine. He keeps doing everything he was doing when he met you. Even if he makes a few adjustments here and there for you, he acts so stressed by it, you know its something that won't happen often. Men do not change their routines, that's why they stay at ease. If you can fit fine into his little routines, then he knows what to think about you. Hmmmm, THINKING: That, maybe that's a good idea.

Never change your routine, see how he fits in your life!

Sunday, January 16, 2011

IF HE WAS YOUR BROTHER WOULD YOU BE??

IF HE WAS YOUR BROTHER OR FRIEND, WOULD YOU BE SO CONFUSED?

If you were having a contest for someone to win your friendship over, would you choose him? In other words, what makes you feel that someone wants to befriend you? They're excited to be around you, right? They call, right? They act very interested in you, right? they never let you down? They support you? They're caring and attentive? They appear to like you? Right. Okay, so then why are you so confused about how he feels about you? Don't question it. When a man likes you, he will come off similar to someone trying to befriend you and win your friendship over, accept with a little romance on the side.

How does your brother come off? A good brother, well he's supportive, protective and gives good advice, right? He's there for you. He calls you, checks on you and makes sure you're happy.

The point is, the reason why its so confusing figuring these guys out is, because we tend to analyze men, from a romantic lens, instead of as a person. How is he as a person? Does he remain the same from the beginning through the end?

Observe him, as if he's a regular human being. Learn about him as a person and not as your man. View him as a candidate, who's interested in your company.

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Start Off As Friends Always! & Never GIve it Up!

Ladies

It's important to start off as friends first. I know, i know, you want the Cinderella fairy tale, but in reality that never happens over night, if at all! Believing in being swept off of your feet in one night, well that's just hopeless romantic thinking. Even if you want a relationship, you still must understand that you need to opearate as a friend around a man, for your own protection. Plus love will not ever happen over night, even if you want it to. That's unrealistic. You can connect with someone deeply, upon meeting them, especially if they're cool, but how can you jump from 0-60 in one day. Keep it real. I mean, are you really digging the guy or just in love with the idea of love? Love takes time, so if he is playing Mr. Too Smooth over night, he's not looking for anything serious and he's playing on your emotions to get a reaction. Play it lightly, be cool and be friendly. Plus, he may not be the one and men are use to women wanting a relationship with them, so be different and never desperate. Operate on the, "he's just a cool guy", until you see otherwise.


AND LADIES NEVER GIVE IT UP. SAVE THAT FOR THE ONE. YOU GIVE IT UP, AND IT'S GONE. TRUST ME. THE KEY TO THIS GAME IS, CLINK, CLINK. LOCK IT DOWN. YOUR BODY IS A TEMPLE AND IT IS FOR ONE MAN, A SPECIAL MAN. NEVER MISTAKE LOVE AND AFFECTION FOR A MAN'S SEXUAL APPETITE. THE KEY TO SUCESS IS NOT GIVING UP YOUR PRECIOUS JEWLES. WHY DO THAT ANYWAY, TO NOT END UP WITH THE GUY IN THE FIRST PLACE.. SAVE YOURSELF FOR THE ONE YOU WILL END UP WITH.

WHY DO YOU THINK I KNOW SO MUCH. MY BODY IS A TEMPLE AND I KNOW THAT, IT BELONGS TO ME AND GOD. BUT I'M ALSO REALISTIC AND I KNOW THESE MALE AND FEMALE CHALLENGES EXIST. BE VIRTUOUS, BE VIRGINAL AND BE KIND TO YOUR TEMPLE.

Good New Years Ladies!

Let's have a good new years ladies and start off right!

Remember, how you start your new years off, is usually the way you set the tone for the rest of the year.

Remember two or four things

1) In the words of Ray Jay, "all men have something bad in them, therefore you have to find a good man, who can control those bad charactersitics". Exactly, all men have an angel and devil on each shoulder. Although there are some good men out there, you still have to find the one who can maintain his bad urges. Men aren't designed to be as sensitive, caring, and concerned as women are.
That's why you will meet a nice, church guy and then be surprised that he did you this way or that way, or may have reacted this way. Well, no matter how good or how bad the man is. Because men aren't equipped to be as caring, concerned and sensitive to the feelings of others as women seem to be, you must find a man who can control his bad urges and apologize when he can't and never make the same mistakes.

2) The way you start out with him is the way you set the tone from here on out. If he starts out doing this or that, and it works, he will keep doing it. No man stops what he feels is working and changes routines. If you want to train him, train him in the beginning, cause guess what? the beginning stages is what sets the tone for future treatment. If he starts off texting, never calling or just being all about all words and no actions, don't entertain the buster, why? because you're only setting a tone, for the future that will be at your expense.

3) Check his software and never his microsoft words! A man with all talk and no play, has no software in his hard drive. If he's about something, then let it happen and automatically appear on the monitor. Never in history has a monitor worked without being plugged up to the hard drive of the computer. So how the hell should words make up for action now? Never. If he's talking too much, he really ain't talking about nothing.

4) Never let a man run your shoes over and don't run his over either. Men are accustomed to meeting women and judging them quickly and assessing what they feel their behavior is. They will categorize you, have pre concieved notions of how they believe the female gender is and what not. Don't allow him to define you, categorize you or label you. No definition of you started when he met you. You were already defined by GOD's measures before you even knew who he was! Your morals, boundaries and rules don't get altered because Mr. Big shot is this way, or he's that way. No , you never change your rythmm to be with a man. You are who you are and you were who you were before he even came into the picture and that will always be. You worry about yourself, your needs and wants and never lower your standards. You run your own shoes over and let him run his own shoes over. Period!