Sunday, March 2, 2014
When we meet a man, it's like aweeeeeee! Birds chirping , sunny outside , Music playing where there is no music and good people. Well, at least that's how high I feel! Lol
I have realized that men bum Rush their way into my life. First, I meet them and the next thing they have my number and the next day my life changes for good. Lol All of a sudden I'm getting bombarded with text message feast, "Good Morning beautiful" messages and all! Lol omg , what happened? Love doesn't happen over night and no, Mr. I didn't invite you into my life so please pump your breaks.
Always question a man sending those typical, "Good Morning" messages! It's always a red flag. Real men in pursuit mode don't have time to send daily morning affirmations to your doorsteps. In fact, a real man barely texts! Because texting to a man on the prowl should feel similar to getting cheated. A man that's hungry doesn't want to nibble on crumbs, he wants the whole feast. He wants to see you, touch you, hug you and eventually love you. Always remember that, a man talking or texting too much is covering his inaction.
Let me get back on task here. Men don't not know you existed yesterday and boom! Abra kadabra , they're consuming your life the next day! Those are red flags sweety! Men rarely fall in love at first sight, as often as women do! They're just living in the moment. A man moving too fast is a sure sign that he is not a keeper! He's Just trying to get it all in , because he's living in the moment.
Before you let any many into your life, make sure he is for one, about you & only you! Men are infamous for showing up and showing out but leaving nothing behind. Make sure that a man is for you and supports you before you invite him into your life. Per! No free passes! Seats are for RSVP guest only!
If you are a teacher , writer ,psychologists , freelancer, actor, educator , artist, humanitarian, MD, veterinarian , engineer, reporter , mechanic , real estate agent, whatever you are , if a man can not support you nor be about you in your endeavors, he should not get free tickets to view the concert of your life! Why? Because he will only distract and destroy you. Just look at all successful people , men and women. The closest people around them are about their life! No freebies! Make sure he's about your life before you allow him access into your life.
Remember, men live for the moment, while you as a woman lives for the future!
Tuesday, February 25, 2014
The article written below, was written by a man, about ways to bring out the best in a guy.
The article written below, was written by a man, about ways to bring out the best in a guy.
It's your boy, Devon Bradway,
here with another "Male Confessions" Newsletter!
Today, I'll be talking to those of you who are currently
seeing a guy... but feel a bit unimportant in his life.
Do you feel like he's taking you for granted? Or does he
make a lot of promises, but can't keep most of them?
Or does he treat you like a girlfriend or wife... but
you're not OFFICIALLY his girlfriend or wife, because he
doesn't want to commit to a serious relationship?
I know how frustrating it might be to see other women -
some of them your own girlfriends - hook up with guys who
make them feel very special.
These men are attentive, devoted, funny, hardworking, and
loving. They have their lives and their relationships in
order. They spend every single day of their lives making
"happily ever after" happen for themselves and the women
in their lives.
So why do some guys embody the "Prince Charming" persona,
while others don't?
Answer: It's all because of a trend that's going on in the
dating game today, that's both a blessing AND a curse to
women all over the world...
Why There's A Shortage
Of "Real Men" Today
Here's a fact: These days, guys don't chase anymore.
Do you agree with that?
In the past, guys would trip over themselves to earn the
love and affection of a girl they liked. But these days,
thanks to the "gender equality" movement, more and more
women believe they have every right to chase guys, too.
And they do. That's definitely a choice every woman is
free to make.
All I'm saying that, after serving as a relationships
coach for years, I know for a fact that things work so
much better when it's the GUY who chases.
And it's not because of our ego or our pride.
It's because of something MUCH DEEPER than that:
"The Chase" Brings Out
The BEST Qualities In A Guy
When a guy actively pursues you, many great things happen
- If he was once "not interested in a serious
relationship," all of a sudden he'll do whatever it takes
to win your undivided love and attention.
- If he was once irresponsible and flaky, all of a sudden
he'll start keeping his promises, turning almost overnight
into a "man of his word."
- If he was once self-absorbed and followed his own rules,
suddenly he'll start getting his life in order... as if
preparing for a very special woman to share it with.
- If he was once living just for himself, all of a sudden
you're his #1 priority... and every decision he makes is
geared towards chasing you, catching you, and making you
happy for the rest of your life.
This is all due to a fact that surprisingly few women know
about: That a man's natural "leadership" and "alpha"
qualities kick in only when he's chasing, pursuing, or
working hard to achieve something BIG.
Ever noticed how passionate guys are about sports? That's
because sports represent something deeply important to us:
For us to VALUE something, we have to WIN it. And we'll go
through pain, suffering, and humiliation to do it.
Yes, it's not logical. But is LOVE logical? ;)
That's why, when you chase a guy - or at least, when you
don't make him feel like he's chasing you - then he rarely
exhibits the sexy male qualities you expect.
He's hot-and-cold. He's flaky. He's wishy-washy. He makes
promises but doesn't keep them.
I hope you get the picture by now.
If you want him to be a REAL MAN, you have to make him
And that's not as simple as it may sound...
The Right And Wrong Ways
To Make Him Chase You
The WRONG way to make him chase is by tricking him,
leading him on, or playing with his feelings.
Believe me: Guys aren't dumb. (Ahem... who wrote this
Newsletter you're reading right now? ;)
Okay... so we're not as smart as you ladies, I'll give you
that. But we're at least smart enough to know if you're
leading us on or playing tricks on us. And trust me,
that's NOT the kind of competition we like.
What's the right way to make a guy chase you?
Simple - by making the chase as fun, interesting, and
exciting as you possibly can.
By doing so, you bring out a host of great male qualities
in him: Confidence, maturity, hard work, strength of heart
and mind, devotion to family, an honor code, and more!
So that's your choice right now. Would you like a guy
who's hot-and-cold and non-committing... or someone who
spends every waking moment expressing his love and
devotion in many wonderful ways?
Thursday, February 13, 2014
In the rules book, it states," A guys intentions cannot be revealed, by revealing your hand; you just have to listen for cues". We are all guilty of this. We meet a guy and instead of listening and learning our new crush, we tell him what we desire and feed him the answers , instead of listening for his personal cues. Due to this, men tell you what you want to hear, not what you need to hear. If you listen for cues, red flags and personals in the beginning , his intentions will be revealed. No offense to any man who reads this. I use all experiences to explain most things. I met a guy who starting off joking around with me on Facebook and that lead into jokes about vacationing in Hawaii. Well, apparantenly, this man was all about the fantasies, because his patterns, lack of planning . and comments revealed it. This man also claimed to be celibate, until marriage, yet he talked about sex all the time, sent me shirtless pictures and video chats.
He was also highly vain and obsessed with himself. What does this reveal? It reveals that the physical is all he has to offer. There isn't much there underneath his looks. His intentions also revealed , "fantasy relationship". I also once met a man who sort of misunderstood every single thing I said and twisted the meanings into his own comprehensions. Sometimes, I forget that, the eyes sees only what the mind can comprehend. This man was also argumentative. He even told me that he enjoys debating and that he will sometimes disagree with people, although he truly agrees with their perspective, just for a good debate. He believes that, being agreeable or vibing with people is boring. He would rather spice stuff up! Sounds like some inner turmoil floating around, don't ya think? This reveales a lot to me. A talker is a talker.
Sometimes, I'm so quick and gifted , I mistake myself for other people and forget that I don't make assumptions , nor do I project. My observations are spiritual and keen. My gift is from God. Use your gift.
You have to be quick with men, because unless he's a narcissistic , a womanizer, a sociopath, cunning or deceitful , his red flags won't be hard to spot. In fact, even your spirit can detect the narcissist, womanizer , sociopath, cunning deceitful man. There will always be signs and no man is above out smarting this system. Take for example, I use to date a guy who was very cunning. He mirrored my mannerisms and he told me exactly what he thought I wanted to hear. He talked about marriage but also showed signs of being gun shy. No matter what he did, he did not seem genuine. You cannot fake genuity. Just trust your spirit to reveal his intentions , if you're finding it hard to do.
Men don't waste time. They are in and out. You have to be the same way. Detect in and Dectect out.
Until we meet again
Tuesday, February 4, 2014
I have received many emails from readers across the globe, who have many questions and worries with the opposite sex. I welcome all emails and I appreciate every single one of you who have sent me emails. I will always answer you , if I can.
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Monday, February 3, 2014
A chemical reactions occurs with sex. Sex bonds people through soul ties and of course the release of the oxytocin hormone. But what about the meeting of two personalities? There is also a chemical reaction that occurs when two people meet. Have you ever noticed a spiritual exchange after speaking with someone, touching someone or even after kissing someone? Be careful of who you interact with, because there is a spiritual exchange , also known as, chemical exchange occurring without your knowing. Ever notice how you take on the spirit or philosophy of what a person says or does when in your presence? You might believe the words uttered to you or repeat words that are spoken to you. When people meet, it is the contact of two chemical substances, which both parties can be transformed for the better or for the worst. Be careful to whom you attach yourself to.
Relationships are either Godly or worldly. In a relationship that are Godly, it will be meant to be, for various reason that have evrything to do with Gods will for your life. Are you meant to procreate? Are you meant to be together, according to Gods will and Gods purpose? These are questions that must be answerd with yes for those who are meant to end up together. God is not a noun. For God does not view time the way that we do ;)
Now let's discuss worldly relationships. A worldly relationship is one that occurs based off of luck. Being in the right place , right time and in the right circumstances will definetely get you the mate you want. Luck is a noun, which includes a person, place or thing. It's luck for the worldly relationship, nothing more.
There are many self help books out there and relationship advisors that live by the creed of doing things a certain way to get the mate. I agree in conducting yourself a certain way and I also believe there are many great relationship books, I've recommended several. However, what I have noticed is that, people may conduct themselves in a certain manner that is supposed to render them having a mate , only to end up being single anyway. I have also noticed people who do not practice good conduct and are not single. Mean people get love and some don't. Nice people get love and some are single. Bad people get love and some don't. Great people get love and some are single too. There is no remedy. The only remedy is , to be the best you and to love yourself! I'm not saying not to conduct yourself well but what I am saying is, conducting yourself in any manner won't guarantee you a mate.
Be your best, yessssss!
Just know this, spiritual relationships are about God, and Gods will for your life. A worldly relationship is about luck!
It's either meant to be or it's luck!
So be you , love you! Work it! Love it! Own it!
Monday, January 27, 2014
This article entitled, “Relationship diet”, was named to mimic a “food diet”. When we think of diet, we most often think of a food diet. A food diet consists of low calorie, low fat, low sodium, and low carb foods. The goal of a diet is most likely to lose weight, and become healthier. Have you ever heard of a relationship diet? It comes in the same form; accept. It doesn’t involve food. From my understanding, any book and or person giving advice on the do’s and don’ts in finding the perfect relationship are facilitating a diet, to perhaps motivate you to lose baggage and have a healthier relationship. We never look at relationship gurus as facilitating a relationship diet, but if anyone is requiring certain behavior, for a certain outcome, it’s a diet. Diets can be fun, but I am beginning to wonder what makes someone an expert? Everybody’s life is different, so how can someone advise a person, as if they have walked in their shoes. Just as every trainer, nutritionist or weight loss coach has advice on how to lose weight and it all works for certain individuals; I notice the same thing with relationship coaches’ advice. With there being so many food diets today, the best thing for myself to do is, learn what foods are good or bad for my blood type and create my own diet.
There are tons of relationship books, and relationship coaches out there; however, they all have different advice. I notice that, many relationship coaches’ advice stems from their personal experiences. Therefore whose advice should one take, if one person’s advice contradicts the next person’s advice? The answer is, create your own personal diet. Just as a person can design their personal food diet, you can do the same for your relationship diet. First pray or do whatever spiritual act that you do, take your life experiences that you have learned from and books you have read or advice you have gathered and create your own relationship diet. No one is an expert at your life better than you. If every diet works, because research shows people having results, from each diet, and research also shows that people have had positive results with relationship advice, how do you know which route to take? You have to figure out what works best for yourself and go that route. It is good to seek counsel but sometimes the best advice comes from within. You know better than anyone what you want, just figure out how to get it and you have the hardest part out of the way.
I use to find myself in countless debates over the topic of love, only to feel invalidated for what I knew was true for myself in the end. I began to realize that, I don’t need validation from others. Love is different for everyone. Everyone has his or her own idea of his or her perfect relationship. Either everyone is right or everyone is wrong. If you can figure out what good traits work for you and what bad traits don’t work for you, then you’re half way to the finish line. All you have to do is love yourself, trust and believe in yourself. Although I advise many of my readers in relationship psychology, I never profess to speak for them, because only you can speak for yourself.